Hey y'all,
I'm stressed. I'm just putting it out there. I have a lot on my plate, and i know I'm not the most consistent blogger (or person, for that matter), but I've always been very candid and transparent, and have kept you informed of schedule/post changes or delays. With that being said, I'm kind of at my wit's end. The release I usually find in writing just isn't there right now, and i feel more stress to try and put up posts because my brain is fried and I'm having a hard time writing.
To completely put myself out there, my SO and I broke up about a month ago and it's been a really difficult transition to single parenting. Plus dealing with the sadness and lonliness. Kudos to you all who do the single parenting, and do it well. I'm not good at it.
In addition to that I'm trying to get a promotion at work, but in the meantime I'm kind of in a time crunch and am working a lot of overtime from home.
I'm sure I'll receive some comments about not caring about excuses or my personal life, etc. Etc. So, just go ahead and keep those thoughts to yourself. Because, frankly, this is MY blog and I get to choose what I share. And i choose honesty and transparency.
All this to say I need to take a brief hiatus. I need to recuperate and sit down and take some time to refocus and actually enjoy writing. I want this to be as brief as possible. My intention is to post again April 3rd. So in a week and a half. If for some reason that changes, of course I'll let you all know.
Thank you for your continued loyalty and comments. Know I read them all and smile a lot seeing them (well, most of them).
~A
I'm so sorry to hear about you and your SO. You and your life need to come first and foremost. Take all the time you need. You are a most gifted writer. All of your fans will be here supporting you and waiting patiently until you are ready to return. Thank so much for your candidness and your updates. We really do appreciate it!
ReplyDeleteSorry to hear about the changes in your life. Things will get better in the future. Take time for yourself and you will get through it. Single parenting is hard, but you will adjust. I hope things get better for you. Our job field isn't the easiest, but very rewarding at times. I hope things get easier as time goes on. We are all here rooting for you. I will be here no matter how long it takes you to come back!
ReplyDeleteMy thought is that you writing is doing US a favor by writing, so the least we can do is cut you some slack. Life has a nasty habit of interfering with our hobbies, so don't worry about the readers; take care of yourself Hang in there and take all the time you need.
ReplyDeleteWhile it's always tough going thru a break up, it's even harder when you have a child involved. I totally understand where your coming from on that. Please take all the time you need to catch your breath and refocus on getting yourself to place where you don't feel so overwhelmed. We are not going anywhere! Thank you for keeping us in the loop...
ReplyDeleteDON'T feel guilty about taking time off and/or stopping your blog. Take care of yourself and your child - they should always come first.
ReplyDeleteto hell with those people who complain about the free service you offer us. Take care of you and yours because in the end they are what's important. Not this blog. People take this crap way too seriously.
ReplyDeleteTake your time... your sanity, well being, and life with the little one are far more important.
ReplyDeleteDon't get me wrong, I will miss the blog for the next couple of weeks but that is only because you are such a great writer and I love the story line and characters.
Hope you can get some ME time in the midst of what I am sure is a trying time... and lots of cuddles from the baba... I have a little man who is 14 months and a cuddle from him is the best medicince ever. It doesn't happen very often as he is much to busy these days to cuddle!
So sorry to hear. You do you and take your time. Sounds like you have a lot on your plate. Loyal readers will be here waiting and ready when you are :) take your time and hang in there..things will get better :)
ReplyDeleteYou take care of you and everything else will fall into place. I appreciate your honesty and that's probably why this is one of my favorite blogs. Don't worry about the negative comments, I don't see them spending their time and effort to write a blog.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry to hear about you and your SO. I was a single parent for a short time (weeks seemed like months) and it's hard, the one thing I learned was that I couldn't continue to do all the stuff I did when my hubby was living with us and participating. If that meant that dishes were dirty when I got in bed with my two precious boys... who cares!! Don't try to be supermom/woman... no one expects you to be. (((Hugs)))
Erin.
Erin
Aww, I like the hugs part. Hugs from me too, cuz we all need them once in a while... I'll be here too when you are able to come back. Take your time and know that there's a lot of us who don't know you and still somehow like you and want you to be well!
DeleteOh, girl... we're all part of your family, ya know? And some of us are that cranky aunt who nothing you do is good enough for, but most of us are are your loving brothers/sisters/cousins/etc that would do anything in our power to help you. Reach out to us if there is something we can do for you. Take however much time you need to take care of your child and yourself. Maybe you'll find the desire to return to writing frequently as a means of release, maybe you won't. But keep us updated. Chat us up as therapy if you think that will help. We'll be here for you!
ReplyDeleteSending hugs to you, gal. Chin up! mum
ReplyDeleteI stumbled upon your blog this week and read everything from beginning to now (im actually kind of upset im caught up to real time!) and I can honestly say it is already one of my favorite blogs and has some of the most amazing writing I've seen in a blog. Family always comes first so don't even stress, people that are rude have nothing better to do than try to make others miserable! Wishing you all the best in your personal life and seriously - this blog is unreal amazing!
ReplyDeleteHi, so sorry to hear about your stress. I am I social worker and I used to work for children and family services so I get your stress. Just ask my hair, lol. Take your time to decompress and get your new routine down. We'll be here.
ReplyDeleteHey all! If you are looking for another blog in the meantime, check out: dysfunctionaldatingdiary.wordpress.com It's pretty funny.
ReplyDeleteYou all are so amazing. Words cannot express how much your comments have meant to me.
ReplyDeleteI forgot today was a holiday and I didn't work. And i left my laptop at work. I think I'm ready to attempt to write again. I miss it, even though it hasn't been long. Because I forgot my laptop, expect a new post wednesday.
♡ ~A
No offense Aleah but there is always an excuse with you. I'm sorry you're going through a difficult time. I would rather you not promise to post on a specific date than make a promise and give another excuse. Just my two cents.
ReplyDeleteWow...way to show some compassion and empathy during an especially trying time for Aleah. The fact that she even gave us an explanation is more than she needed to do for this free service she has been so generous to share with us. And then you give an asshole comment like that? Who cares if she is "always giving excuses"? Life happens and there is no contract stating that she has to post a specific number of entries per week to keep you happy. She does this as a release for herself and I'm sure that our enjoyment is just an added bonus for her. I'm going to assume that you were never taught that if you have nothing nice to say, then don't say anything at all...it's one thing if you're giving constructive criticism, but what you gave was straight up bitchy criticsm. Next time, keep it to yourself. And maybe take a class on how to show empathy and compassion. Or learn to fake it.
DeleteAnd p.s. Anytime someone prefaces a statement with "no offense", it's always an offensive comment. You're just trying to not look like an asshole...news flash, it didn't work.
Wow Charlotte. Take a deep breath and calm yourself down. The original comment wasn't as bad as you make it seem. The vitriol in your comment is uncalled for and ridiculous. You calling anyone an asshole is like the pot calling the kettle black. The original comment actually makes sense. Sometimes it's best to not make promises and say I need a break and I'll see you when I do.
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